13-11-2018 07:41 PM
13-11-2018 07:41 PM
Following on from what @CheerBear has mentioned, your relationships, or how you operate within society, personally, professionally etc. can change pretty significantly once you become a parent. Were there relationships that shifted for you as a new parent? What were the healthy relationships and how did you nurture them?
13-11-2018 07:43 PM
13-11-2018 07:43 PM
@CheerBear, yes it is so hard have a child at a young age, feeling like everyone is judging you. I avoided mothers groups and going to the shops because of my fear of the judgement from older mothers. So great to hear that you were able to show that age doesnt matter, a great strength there to demonstrate to other young mothers who may lack confidence in parenthood or feel judged by others.
13-11-2018 07:44 PM
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13-11-2018 07:49 PM
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13-11-2018 07:50 PM
@dani2 its so common to feel like you want to get it all right and do the absolute best for your child/ren. But then attempting to achieve that level of perfection is just so exhausting and often unachievable. In the process it is usually our own wellbeing that suffers, which in turn affects our ability to parent in the way that we want to. Such a catch-22.
We talk to our callers a lot about the importance of self-care and we even have a fact sheet dedicated to that specific topic because it is just so important. As we always say, you have to put the oxygen mask on yourself first before tending to baby (aeroplane analogy). Fact sheet: Self Care and Wellbeing
13-11-2018 07:53 PM
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13-11-2018 07:56 PM
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13-11-2018 07:56 PM
@dani2. Wow, 3 under 3 must have been difficult to manage and I can see how it would have been difficult to leave the house and maintain those old relationships. It can be so easy to withdraw and compound our sense of isolation so it is great to hear that you were able to seek out new friendships that helped you to feel connected and supported.
What else did you find helpful during this time?
13-11-2018 07:56 PM
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