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[Shaz51]

Sitting with you and sending you lots of tender hugs my friend 🧡 @Krishna 

Soo glad your son rings a text's you , is your son very far from you xx 

My 3 step sons are a far away from us 

[PinkFlamingo]

Aw, @Shaz51 💜🌺🫂

hugs and more hugs 🫂 

Mr Shaz is a specialist at buying treats, by the sounds of that! 😉🌺

I hope it was a lovely surprise, and lifted your spirits 🌺💜🙂

[Shaz51]

Hello @Krishna , @Healandlove , @Pem , @Tootsy , @Mum10 @REK24 , @Molly_M , @Numb1 @Sisco2 @Ramman , @Cloudwatcher @Happylifelove 

how is everyone going today 

letting you know that you are not alone my friends xx

[Healandlove]

@Shaz51 , I'm doing OK lovely friend. 

I am feeling exhausted and angry today. I think it's partly hormonal. The Dr doesn't think I'm perimenopausal but I have my doubts.  Add to that dealing with aging parents,  husband with cptsd, puppy and I am ready to run to a deserted island.  I don't even know how I will get through menopause with the mental challenges my husband has.

I am also angry about life if I am being honest. Why I made the choices I made. Why I wasn't braver earlier in life...I was thinking today, am I wasting my life? I have 2 beautiful children which I am grateful and they are all my heart. However I think, have I really lived? And now supporting my husband I feel like part of me is dying a bit. The pressures of life have made me not enjoy all the things I used to. I think it's a combination of hormones, depression,  anxiety and exhaustion. Sorry for the rant.

I hope your day was better.

Sending you hugs 🫂 

[Pem]

hi @Shaz51, and everyone else that reads this. 

I need someone to talk to. I'm feeling super lonely and I was taken advantage of by a close guy friend of mine.

I just feel so hopeless and worthless and just wish someone would love me and be happy with who I am. 

TW: weight loss

Content/trigger warning

I've been trying to hard to lose weight because my family keep telling me that know is going to want to marry someone fat. 

I just don't know what to do with myself anymore. I can't even look at myself in the mirror...I look in disgust. 

so sorry for complaining🙈

[tyme]

Oh @Pem ,

I'm so sorry to hear you are going through this. 

I hear how incredibly hard this is for you.

I hope you can be the person you want to be and have someone marry you for who you are.

We are here for you. @Shaz51 

[Healandlove]

@Pem , I hear a lot of pain and heartache in your message. I am very sorry you are going through this. Loving ourselves first can be really hard because of all sorts of reasons.  Please be kind to yourself. Whatever you do for your health, weight do it for yourself only. To find your own joy and happiness. 

We are all here for you. ❤️🫂

Sending you love and Healing. 

[Shaz51]

Sitting with you my friend @Pem ❤️

Sorry you were taken advantage from a so called friend xx

Hope you do find someone who loves you as you are 

Most important person to care about is you 

Don't do things to please other people,  it does not work my friend 

@Healandlove , @tyme 

[Shaz51]

Ohhh @Healandlove 🥰

I have questioned myself all these years married but I also questioned myself when I was single 

Yes lots of times I feel I have lost myself somewhere and sometimesi say " hey me , get here now " 

And then the other morning I saw a me , I felt good and then bang , I was gone again

You are there my friend 🧡 and finding that balance at times is very hard 

And as my mum would say " keep  on keeping on "

" it will pass " 

Ps feeling a bit worried about this retirement bit , feeling like he will be doing nothing 😕 but will see 

@tyme , @Faith-and-Hope 

[Healandlove]

@Shaz51 , thank you for sitting with me my lovely friend. I will have to try that, getting myself back to me. Yesterday I felt so happy, I think it was the effects of our puppy. Today I am fighting a cold and feeling run down and teary. I need to hold on to myself because I don't want to disappear.  Husband seems to be doing OK for now, calm at least and more engaged. Having the puppy has been good for him. He takes the time to toilet train him during the night and to train him for 10min each day. I walk puppy every day and the Sunshine has been good for me.

I hope we all see happier days...I start EMDR tomorrow.  Worried about all the costs. 2 psychologist and a couple psychologist, I hope we can afford it. I plan to have EMDR and then stop to see how I am feeling and coping.

Re. Retirement,  I wonder if Mr Shaz's therapist/mental health team can help prepare him. It is a big transition and it affects everyone differently.  Having a plan and encouraging him to pursue whatever interests he may have (within reason) might be a good start? I remember you mentioned he likes photography? Also looking at activities and courses for pensioners. At TAFE they are really discounted. My Dad is looking at starting one for $200. 

Some ideas...

Hugs to you my friend 🧡