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20-03-2023 09:51 AM
20-03-2023 09:51 AM
Leave your family ??
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20-03-2023 10:22 AM - edited 20-03-2023 10:22 AM
20-03-2023 10:22 AM - edited 20-03-2023 10:22 AM
Re: Leave your family ??
Hi @ClockFace
It's really easy for others to say 'just' leave. But of course, no matter what the situation, it's rarely that easy. Families are messy and complicated and all those things but they are OUR families and a big part of our world, usually. At the end of the day, you're the only one who can make those decisions about how you live your life. You come across as a very caring and empathetic person and I'm sure you're making good decisions. But you're right, people need to be careful before saying something like 'just leave' so off the cuff.
Warmest wishes
Hanami
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20-03-2023 11:41 AM
20-03-2023 11:41 AM
Re: Leave your family ??
Hi @ClockFace,
I agree with you that people should think twice before giving such strong advice around anything close to home but particularly giving advice around how someone should or should not deal with their own family. Nobody ever really knows the ins and outs of any family and I think most families are imperfectly perfect in their own ways.
Sometimes a person does need to step away from a family, loved one, relationship etc; I get that but that is such a personal and individual thing that can only be determined by that person impacted. I come from a dysfunctional family and I guess it would be easier in some ways to walk away and forget but that's not who I am and not how I deal with things.
You do you whatever works for you and your family and just try and block out the white noise if you can. A lot of people seem to have a lot of opinions but at the end of the day it's your road to travel so travel it the way you see fit - you don't have to explain or justify yourself to others.
Warm wishes,
FloatingFeather
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20-03-2023 12:33 PM
20-03-2023 12:33 PM
Re: Leave your family ??
Probably a good illustration as well of how social media is not the best place to look for advice. Hope everyone is going as best they can @ClockFace.
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20-03-2023 12:57 PM
20-03-2023 12:57 PM
Re: Leave your family ??
Hi @ClockFace
I haven't met you before so it's good to see you.
I think the only person who can truly make that decision is you. All these people telling you to leave your family, do not live your life. Yes it does sound like a complicated life, but a lot of us on here have that. No family is perfect, they all have their ups and downs.
Please continue to reach out to the forums, again it is really good to meet you.