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Trying not to rush it

ClockFace
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Trying not to rush it

Sorry a few posts today

 

Im really wondering about when I should return to work. Ive been off for 6 or 8 weeks to help with my sister. She is home, though self harm and suicidal impulses are still pretty bad. We had a visit to ER via ambulance only a couple nights ago. I dont know whats gonna happen next but there is good money to say something will. But do I wait until they arent happening often, how long apart is it until I can feel safe to return to work?

 

Then there is my own issues to consider. I have surgery Friday, all going well but the  earliest Id be planning to return is in a fortnight anyhow. 

 

My concern is the hallucinations and delusions, delusions are new so I cant work out any certainty there. My visual hallucinations and dovetailing with the delusions, something very new and I thought was paranoia not delusion. Spoke to SANE today and they recommended I speak to my psychiatrist about it. So do I wait until after that? I mean I dont want to be dealing with hallucinations and delusions while Im trying to work, though there was a  med change which hopefully has resolved the hallucinations though delusions are having a bit of a field day.

Ideally, Id like to go back to work, on reduced hours, in a fortnight or so but I dont know if thats enough time for me to make sure Im ok. Obviously, my sister is a different matter I mean we could be taking her to ER tomorrow for all I know. Its not so much her self harming, I work from home and I cant be getting disrupted by her saying I need ER or similar. I need to just be able to work. If I go back to work with regular doctors for her, emergencies etc then there will be issues. They know there will be appointments for me, Im sick for a lack of a better word and see a GP at least fortnightly, not to mention specialists etc.

 

I dont want to be waiting months but I dont want to rush into it either. If Dad had his way Id be back to work tomorrow.

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Re: Trying not to rush it

Hi @ClockFace,

It's sounds like you are in a bit of a `stuck between a rock and a hard place situation'. Going to work can be a great thing in terms of feeling productive, getting your mind on other things, having a schedule etc but as you said you also have a lot going on at the moment. 

Maybe it would be better to speak to your psychiatrist first and see what they say around you returning to work. I'm guessing (just how I would think) if you start back at work you don't want to have to take time off again anytime soon so maybe it's better to wait until you feel you have a better idea around how things are with you and your family. It might also be a good thing to wait to see how your operation pans out on Friday in case you may need a bit more extra recovery time than expected? 

At the end of the day the only person who can really answer this question around what you need, what your family need, what you feel ready for etc is you. I wish you luck with your decision.

Warm wishes,

FloatingFeather 

Re: Trying not to rush it

@FloatingFeather 

 

Yeah I was thinking I might  have to hold out longer than I want. When I do go back Im planning on a gradual return so doing a couple 1/2 days for a bit. It will depend on if I get approved for my Salary Continunance. Dad has been supplimenting my income but I  think thats coming to an end, added to which I dont want anymore debt with him. 

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