Re: Hurting and causing hurt because I didn't understand.
@Appleblossom thankyou so much. Your words are so empowering! It would be awesome if every specialist could take a leaf out of your book. (I admit I've finally been infected by their pattern of tearing people down)
I think I'll need to write up your suggestions and paste them around the house to remind myself to choose kindness in frustration Lol.
Trauma is indeed a key factor. I had just hoped that he would return to my beautiful boy once the horrid neighbours finally left. I fear he will never be the same.
To give you an idea.. We weren't getting sleep at night. At all. Ever. They wouldn't let us. As one example : they noticed how much he was affected by Harley Davidsons, so they went and bought one, had it modified to be even louder (I never thought that was possible) parked it right under his bedroom window and would revv the guts out of it, every day for hours.
They knew we were homeschooling, so would wait until we entered the schooling room and would start up the revving and loud swearing music and vehicle revving, no matter the time. The list goes on and on. They were relentless and there was nowhere to get away from the debilatating noise and bullish intent. Really awful time.
I am not sure if his brain has been permanently affected.
I will put up little notes and try to extend love instead of frustration. I know frustration is not working Lol
Re: Hurting and causing hurt because I didn't understand.
@ReyNeedsAnswersLove and commitment are essential but only go so far. Take a long term gently bently approach. I grew up in many different high density housing situations from orphanages to boarding houses in centre of Sydney and Housing Commission flats. Poverty does not help and those who have not had to endure are often slow to empathy. What you went through with those neighbours is EXTREME.
I remember the fear of going up our stairs growing up as the teenagers were rough and smoking drinking and swearing .... but they actually did not pick on us ... they might be irritated that they had to move aside to let us pass ... somehow society seems to have gotten worse ...
On the whole Schizophrenia thingy ... both my parents were diagnosed with it, but both were also very different in education, family background and both had serious trauma backgrounds ... father sex abuse in RC orphange and mother with bombing everywhere in WWII. Now I just think of Sz as a super dose of trauma, but I spent a long long time studying it and interpreting it. Its just my opinion. The prfessionals are there to help, so do your best to get the most out of them. DOnt buy into all the shame ... oh god ... how much shame I endured innocently saying that my mother or father had that ... Nowadays everybody carries on about this or that stress ...
