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08-11-2022 08:03 PM
08-11-2022 08:03 PM
Re: Not Coping
Whenever I had these thoughts, my psychologist would work with me to 'get acquainted' with the discomfort. I hate this strategy.
So I'd sit there, and he would ask me questions:
1) where do you feel it?
2) how heavy is it?
3) what colour is it?
4) what texture is it?
etc.
I'd sit there and cringe - I didn't care what it looked like or what colour it was, I just wanted it GONE!
However, i just obliged and did what he said. After practicing this skill every week, I realised that the technique gave me distance between when I was feeling and reality.... I was no longer 'fused' with my emotion... and I learnt to sit with it.
Whatever this technique does, it seems to work - but requires practice...
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08-11-2022 08:16 PM
08-11-2022 08:16 PM
Re: Not Coping
Mmm okay I’m cringing as well thinking about it but I will give it ago. Thanks @tyme
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08-11-2022 08:21 PM
08-11-2022 08:21 PM
Re: Not Coping
You may need a therapist to help you at first...
I honestly cringed at this thought. I really HATED doing it..
The ultimate effect is 'defusion'. https://thepsychologygroup.com/defusion/
You can have a read if you are interested.
So my technique is one of the many ways to defuse @Birdofparadise8
I'm actually impressed that you are even wiling to give it a go! If I heard such I thing back then, I'd laugh and brush it off.
Good on you for giving things a go!
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08-11-2022 08:26 PM
08-11-2022 08:26 PM
Re: Not Coping
Thank you I will try anything as what I’m doing now isn’t working so I’ll have to give it a go. @tyme
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08-11-2022 08:30 PM
08-11-2022 08:30 PM
Re: Not Coping
Sorry for jumping in @Birdofparadise8.
I did try this when @tyme suggested it to me and I went to bed and thought it through. I did feel pretty odd. The next night it was still there but I felt it was a lighter colour and a smoother shape.
But I have to be honest I did forget about doing it after that.
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08-11-2022 08:33 PM
08-11-2022 08:33 PM
Re: Not Coping
Not problem at all @Captain24 I will take any advice I can get. I will give it a go tonight and then ask my psychologist about it when I see him Thursday.
How are you @Captain24
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08-11-2022 09:01 PM
08-11-2022 09:01 PM
Re: Not Coping
I’m not doing overly well @Birdofparadise8. But it doesn’t really matter. I’m starting to get use to it.
Hope you are starting to feel a little
more at ease
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08-11-2022 09:05 PM
08-11-2022 09:05 PM
Re: Not Coping
Sorry to hear that @Captain24 I definitely know what you mean about getting used to it. It feels like the new normal if you get what I mean.
I’m not either but oh well. We can all support each other to get better.
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08-11-2022 09:16 PM
08-11-2022 09:16 PM
Re: Not Coping
Yep it’s my new normal @Birdofparadise8. Some days I don’t know if I’ll ever get better.
I really hope for you that you will get a much better new normal!
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08-11-2022 09:26 PM
08-11-2022 09:26 PM
Re: Not Coping
Thank you I hope you can improve and enjoy the season after this one is over. @Captain24