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04-01-2017 08:42 PM
04-01-2017 08:42 PM
Can I be a doctor?
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04-01-2017 11:14 PM
04-01-2017 11:14 PM
Re: Can I be a doctor?
Hi @M12
Welcome back 🙂
It sounds like you are still struggling with many challenges and questions but despite this you are in a better place than you were and you are brave enough to look for the future you want by working with a therapist and going back to study. And i really like your focus on appreciating / enjoying the small things, they are what makes a bigger difference in our overall happiness as there is more of them more often
Just wondering what aspect/s of science interest you? you mention a doctor, do you mean a GP or other kind? Ive always been fascinated by genetics (although my understanding is severely limited - never studied it)
you mentioned that your lonely, have you ever popped in on the social pages here? Just checking in or Anyone feel like chatting or weekly friday feast (which usually spills over to other days :))
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11-01-2017 08:53 AM
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14-01-2017 02:56 PM
14-01-2017 02:56 PM
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Thanks for both of these responses. They've both really helped.
In answer to the questions, I'm not really sure which aspects of science I'm interested in. Am at the library, and have borrowed a book on science, and am reading it to see whether or not I can grasp the concepts. On that, I was looking at another book that suggested that intelligence is not fixed, and that there are two different schools of thought on intelliegence - one, where it is fixed, and the other that it can be grown, so I thought that that was heartening. Can emotional intelligence be grown also? I worry, because I seem to spend so much time alone, and after a while it really starts to hurt, that emotionally I'm stunted.
I love the idea that it's never too late to do anything. Somehow, I think I need to find a way to stop feeling so sorry for myself all the time. Not only that, there is a healthy dose of shame in there that I'm not working, and have been living on government allowance for so long. And the shame really hurts too.
I started out with such high hopes that have all been shared by the family, and none of them have come about. One thing I have learned recently, or perhaps relearned, is seeing the value in completing very small tasks, even to the point of just getting out of bed.
I know that I've got a long way to go in my recovery, it's just, I wish there were others that I could share with.
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15-01-2017 12:48 AM
15-01-2017 12:48 AM
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The reality is we can do anything we want. There might be challenges to overcome, but that's part of life. Find a way around or through or over those challenges.
It's never too late.
Your post has inspired me tonight- right when I needed a little pep talk myself. Si, thank you.
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15-01-2017 01:02 AM - edited 15-01-2017 01:11 AM
15-01-2017 01:02 AM - edited 15-01-2017 01:11 AM
Re: Can I be a doctor?
Hi @M12,
I think it's wonderful that you have recommended study once again - goals are important. Keep going.
My friend please don't let bi-polar define you. A big misperception. We are not bi-polar, we are not cancer, we are not depression, we are not heart disease - we are not a disease. We are unique individuals and it's our choices in life that defines who we are; our values, strengths, passions, goals, purpose, interests, compassion, likes, dislikes - our unique individuality - that is who we are. The latter is what we work on to define that person - growing within. Weeding out the negative through life lessons.
With hard work and in the right conditions we can achieve most things we put our minds to. We need to do our best to achieve and if doing all that and it does not work out - it was not meant to be and another door opens that will lead us to what is. It's never black or white.
Mental disorders/physical disease can be controlled and sometimes cured. It's only a curse if we believe that. Once you stop letting it define you - watch your confidence grow as you get to know the real you 😊 Welcome to Sane.
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15-01-2017 01:08 AM
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15-01-2017 09:42 AM
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The older I become the more I realise that there is very little in our lives, our world that is absolutely impossible.
SAB (schizoaffective bipolar type) blew my world apart and destroyed a very successful career. Being a stubborn and headstrong creature I looked at other careers that interested me, went back to uni and built a new career in a completely different area.
In the meantime I've also managed to rebuild my first career and more importantly I have been able to change the reputation I had acquired during the worst of my illness to a positive one.
Go for it @M12 and @Former-Member. You can do this. Yes, it does mean a lot of head down stuck in the books.
If you really want to do medicine, you can and will get there. Just make sure that you develop a high degree of stubbornness and pig-headedness.
I look forward to hearing about your achievements. Hugzzz 💕 🎶
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18-01-2017 01:29 PM
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@Former-Member - when do you hear about your course? Wishing you luck!
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18-01-2017 08:00 PM
18-01-2017 08:00 PM
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Thanks for asking.
My latest issue is that I feel a sadness for my life. Where did the time go? Everywhere, it hits me, I'm still single, and unemployed. What happened? I sit in cafes and study and see young families and feel sadness that this hasn't happened for me. I read a lot. In order to answer all these questions, I suppose. I suppose I should be grateful that I live in a country where it is possible to re-invent oneself. It's just, I feel such shame at my status. This shame, for me, turns into a bone-deep apathy which only makes me feel worse. I suppose shame does one no good, and doesn't help. I suppose that it's obvious and true that we cannot change the past, it's just, I'm in shock I think, that all of my previous study seems to have amounted to nothing, and the size of the task in front of me, if I'm ever going to make it, and that I'm 41, and that I'm still unemployed. The worst is that having the diagnosis and being out of work for so long has really hurt my confidence, I think. The worst is the loneliness and the lack of structure. I'm ashamed to say that some days, I've struggled to even get out of bed. I'm too frightened to date, but worse, don't know any women anyway, worse still, my ego doesn't allow for it, as I feel like such a failure. Worse still, I'm frightened of failing the course and having nothing at all. Still, I suppose, there's always something that I can study that can lead to work. Not working for so long has made me nervous. I suppose there's strategies I can put in place. Probably I'm focusing all my attention on the course, which starts on February 2.
I've discovered Ekhart Tolle and he really calms me down, so I listen to him as much as possible and try not to compare myself with others, but that's hard cause I think it's in my nature to analyse, but maybe that's the same for everyone.
What about you. Where are you up to? Thanks for asking.