Hi @Oaktree
You are not only intelligent 
but also have a good memory to be able to respond to your recollection of my post. You are right about time planning and management. A schedule is my next step. An expression of mine is that you can't change a plan if there is no plan to change. Neither can I adhere to a non-existent plan.
The walking is a definite. I did manage ok yesterday with quite a few changes of stores, but I was conscious of tension particularly in the upper front muscles that actually lift the leg in walking. I've really taken it “on notice” as a warning. And I believe that you are correct in that, while I still have reasonably good muscle mass, I need to take action before that starts to deteriorate.
Yes, it was apparent from early in our discussions that there were a significant number of similarities in our background and experiences, apart from gender. I really think that it is not that surprising to find in a group of people, such as those on the forums, that we would find at least one, and possibly a number of people with whom we find common ground. There are others on the forum with whom I recognise similarities, however, I believe that you and I are the closest that I recognise. There are likewise considerable differences in; past residential locations,
gender; father, son & mother, daughter; family situation and development, etc, etc. The similarities seem to be in the types of experiences and the consequent effects on our life paths, challenges and difficulties. I suppose, even the fact that it was the parent of the same gender that gave us reason for believing that our difficulties stemmed or originated in our relationship with that person, is a similarity.
I am pleased that the discussion about my counselling experience has stimulated an interest for you in seeking the most appropriate style of therapy for your needs. I was conscious that there may have been sufficient connection to develop the thoughts and concerns that you had already expressed about types of therapy and, or counselling. So I was aware that you were in some way considering how you might look for a path forward. I was also aware that you were concerned, as I have likewise stated, about the consequences if, In both our situations, we didn't make some sort of decision about addressing our similar concerns. I really just felt that we were, in fact, walking a similar track.
I am looking forward to checking Jess Ogarr's videos. I did have a look at a couple of minutes, so that I would be able to give you some feedback on my impressions. It's as though she is walking along the path with you, pointing out what she knows to be there as if she is wanting to share that information with the viewer. As you say, not as if talking down from a position of authority or power. I believe that is important for a guide, such as she, to maintain credibility and assurance of good faith. I likewise have found a number of different styles in which each have their strong points.
Another presenter, in addition to Jess O'Garr and Dr Kim Sage, to whom I have previously referred, and in a very different style is "Therapy in a Nutshell" presented by Emma McAdam. Some of the supporting information is, I find, quite interesting, and the presentation has rather an wholeistic
approach. Also a very different style of presentation from the other people.
I think also, like you, that I am intelligent and, were I able to focus on a narrower field of interest, I would have been more academically successful. I think that it is reasonable to know oneself well enough to be able to have a perception of one's own level of intelligence in relation to others. The observation has been made, by a counsellor, that the dissonance between ability and accomplishment has very likely been the cause of significant frustration for me. That is an observation with which I totally agree.
With regard to your studies, I wonder, is there any sort of bursary or method by which you could have your studies subsidised. It may be worth speaking with a student counsellor before declining your offer of a place at UWA. Someone did mention NILS (No Interest Loans Scheme) on the forum. I have added some details at the end of this page. It is obviously something that would need to be considered carefully with “Hubby”. And I have no idea how far it would go towards your study program, but even if it started you off part-time and you had the option to change if/when circumstances improved, it may enable you to take advantage of the place offered. There is also Austudy
https://www.servicesaustralia.gov.au/individuals/services/centrelink/austudy
That may assist in deciding on directions. However, you may already be aware of any, or all of these options.
For now, I'll send this off and hope that you and your family are all well.
With My Very Best Wishes
@HenryXRush
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