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20-02-2019 10:19 PM
20-02-2019 10:19 PM
Extremely worried 😧
@Faith-and-Hope @Appleblossom @CheerBear @frog @Snowie @greenpea
I was just talking with my beautiful daughter and she told me and showed me she has been self harming. She has been going through a tough few months but moving schools and spending all the holidays with her I thought would have helped. It hasn’t and I am devastated. She said she won’t do it again but the school already knows about it and I didn’t.
what sort of a parent does that make me.... I can’t even protect her from hurting herself.
Someone please help me
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20-02-2019 10:44 PM
20-02-2019 10:44 PM
Re: Extremely worried 😧
Dear @Nay69
It does make you a parent you cares enough for her to divulge. My mother never knew about my siblings til they were in hospital. Its more out there in today's society and sadly more prevalent.
We can try and be there and compensate, but actualy having it out there is a good sign. Take it one step at a time and try not to beat yourself up about it. The time you spent with her probably made the difference for her to share.
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20-02-2019 10:57 PM
20-02-2019 10:57 PM
Re: Extremely worried 😧
Hugs to you and your daughter xxxx
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20-02-2019 11:00 PM
20-02-2019 11:00 PM
Re: Extremely worried 😧
I agree with what @Appleblossom wrote @Nay69. As devastating as it is, she dealt with how she was feeling by self-harming in the first instance, then recognised it wasn’t a good idea, and that she needs support, so she turned to you. Yes, the school may have learned if it first, but you have an open and caring relationship with your daughter, so you know it best..... and the school is an organisation ..... you are her mother. System vs relationship .... it’s not a comparison at all really.
Hugs and hugs ..... don’t know what to say that can make you feel better, but sitting here with you in it ❣️
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20-02-2019 11:04 PM
20-02-2019 11:04 PM
Re: Extremely worried 😧
Thank you so much x
I don’t deserve it but I just needed someone to help me come to terms with it and give me some strength to deal with it.
my daughter is my world and I will do everything for her to make her happy.
I am absolutely terrified of losing her. I can’t tell mr because he can’t deal with it. I have to make sure that she is okay.
I need to get a sleep pattern happening because I am now finding it hard to function at work. I feel like a huge cauldron about to spew over.😔
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20-02-2019 11:06 PM
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20-02-2019 11:08 PM
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20-02-2019 11:15 PM
20-02-2019 11:15 PM
Re: Extremely worried 😧
Thanks so much @Sans911
I cannot stop crying for not knowing what my baby is going through. I have always prided myself of being her rock, just as my dad was for me.
I just feel like I have let her down because she couldn’t come to me before she did this to herself.
She has just also told me that her friends are spreading on social media that she is sexually active and that she consumes drugs. I know this is not true but I have asked her to send screenshots so that I can show them to the police and her school. I am beside myself right now because I cannot believe it . Guess it doesn’t help when your mr doesn’t care😔
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20-02-2019 11:16 PM
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20-02-2019 11:19 PM
20-02-2019 11:19 PM
Re: Extremely worried 😧
So the school will have some ideas and you and your daughter might develop other ideas of how to approach it.
@Nay69 It is so hard because our children are our world.
I have to tease out my fear for my son and the reality that he is going through. Because that stuff happened in my family. My mind leapt to all sorts of things that were actually a long way from where he is/was at.
Find a way to get your own support and sleep stable.
I have needed to use anti psych meds to maintain myself in the last couple of years, but I have managed to do that, though I no longer have big work commitments.
Your daughter and you can get through this.
At some point maybe share that you are struggling with feelings as you care so much, but also trying to separate things out.
If you did not have the feeling aspect, you woud not care.
I go into my meditation and music when the alarms are ringing. For now calmness and determination that you will walk with her in it, as much as she wants you. Dont take all attempts at privacy on her part as a big problem, but promise to be there for the big things, so she know she can spill as needed.
Hugz for tonight. Nay